“My beloved speaks and says to me, ‘Arise, my love, my beautiful one, and come away, for behold, the winter is past; the rain is over and gone.’” Song of Solomon 2:10-11
Marriage is just like a plant. A plant needs water to stay alive. Time is the water that you pour on to a marriage to keep it alive. Do you know how you spell love in a marriage? T-I-M-E. There is nothing that will communicate to your spouse that they are the number one priority of all other relationships more than when you give the most valuable thing you possibly can – your time.
Go on dates. Take time to get away, just the two of you, and connect. I know this can be hard for many different reasons. Perhaps you have small children, financial constraints, or a number of other obstacles that make it more difficult to make time for one another. But where there is a will there is a way. With a little creativity you will find ways to prioritize one another. The key is to make your marriage a priority.
Believe it or not, there are countless simple ways to spend time together that can be just as meaningful. Go to the grocery store with your wife. Go shopping with her. Join your husband in whatever hobby he enjoys. Even if you don’t particularly like it, you will enjoy spending time together. Give one another a day and say, “Whatever you want to do today, that is what we are going to do.” This gift of time works both ways.
The bottom line is this: Both of you need to be communicating to the other one that you want to spend time together. In marriage, you must carve out time where you devote all of our attention to each other. That time will rejuvenate your love.
Dear Lord, how grateful I am for the spouse you have blessed me with. I pray that you would give me opportunities to show my spouse how much I love them by spending time with them and striving to strengthen our marriage. Amen.